Are you being groomed by a narcissist?

Sat, 17 May 2025 09:09:00 -0500

In this revealing episode of Unlock U with Dr. Shannan Crawford, we dive deep into the often‐hidden dynamics of narcissistic grooming—from a psychoanalytic lens—and uncover how early relationship templates can leave us especially vulnerable. You’ll learn how to spot the red flags, understand the unconscious roots, and put practical safeguards in place.

What Is Narcissistic Grooming?

• Definition: A gradual process by which someone with narcissistic traits gains your trust, isolates you, and then exploits your emotions and boundaries for their own validation and control. Often including intense amounts of verbal praise "Idealizing you", in which they give you signifiant amounts of attention, time, gifts, acts of service, and praise that, many people have described as, "intoxicating." Some have described that "it almost felt like he adored me so much and so suddenly that it was overwhelming. It was so flattering that I ignored all red flags because the life he described we would have was exhilarating! He sent huge flower arrangements and flashy expensive gifts to me at work so my coworkers could see it. He messaged me multiple times a day with the most amazing complements and telling me everything I always wanted to hear. He came into my life, so strong and so fast... he literally came out of nowhere and now, boom, this amazing man is telling me he wants to marry me and take me around the world and I would never need to work again because he wants to spoil me! I was so enraptured that I didn't notice that his current life didn't match up to the fantasies he was creating in my mind of how our life would be..." Another woman says, "He convinced me that he loved me so much that he couldn't be without me... I didn't notice that he was starting to isolate me... I had to give up friends and family who did not fully "support" our relationship. I was so overwhelmed by the intensity of his attention and praise, that I started to subtly build my life around him... eventually I lost my other relationships... By the time he discarded me, I was COMPLETELY alone." 

• Can you resonate? 

• Psychoanalytic Perspective:

  • Splitting & Idealization/Devaluation: Narcissists first “idealize” you as perfect, then “devalue” you once they feel threatened.

  • Projective Identification: They project their own unacceptable feelings onto you, making you feel responsible for their emotions.

  • Object Relations Roots: Early caregivers who were inconsistent or overly enmeshed can leave you craving approval and slow to see manipulation.

Why Some of Us Are More Susceptible

Drawing on the Restoring‑Self‑Cohesion (RSC) model, Dr. Crawford explains how unconscious templates from childhood shape our adult relationships:

• Caretaker Role: You learned to put others’ emotional needs first to feel safe or worthy.

• People‑Pleaser Template: Seeking external validation became your primary way to soothe childhood anxieties.

• Rescuer Script: You believe “fixing” others proves your value—making you an easy target for someone who preys on empathy.

• Unconscious Sabotage Loops: Old patterns pull you back into dynamics where your boundaries blur and your self‑worth hinges on pleasing someone else.

Practical Safeguards to Protect Yourself

1. Strengthen Your Boundaries

   • Practice saying “no” and notice your discomfort.

   • Use “I” statements to express needs: “I feel… when you…”

2. Build an Early‑Warning System

   • Keep a journal of interactions that feel off—look for patterns of praise turning into blame.

   • Share concerns with a trusted friend or therapist to get an outside perspective.

3. Cultivate Healthy “Mirror” Relationships

   • Surround yourself with people who reflect empathy, consistency, and genuine care.

   • Schedule regular check‑ins with your support circle.

4. Deepen Self‑Awareness with RSC Tools

   • Identify your primary relationship template and notice when you slip into old roles.

   • Use grounding rituals (breathwork, journaling, somatic check‑ins) to stay connected to your own needs.

5. Build Community

   • Be honest with your friends and family. Try not to sugar coat the relationship. A healthy relationship can withstand reality testing. When you're early on in a relationship, you're infatuated which means you're literally not thinking clearly. So build healthy relationships with those who can see clearly and have permission to speak into your life!  

6. Seek Professional Partnership

   • Consider one‑on‑one RSC coaching to map unconscious blocks and restore internal alignment.

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The Mother Impact: Unlocking Deeper Love by Healing Old Wounds

Sun, 11 May 2025 06:57:00 -0500

This episode isn’t about blaming your mom—it’s about understanding yourself with compassion. 💛

In this powerful conversation, Dr. Shannan Crawford explores how our earliest experiences with our mothers help form the blueprint for how we love, trust, and connect today. Rather than adding to “mom guilt,” this episode honors the sacred role of mothers while unpacking the impact of unmet needs, misattunements, and emotional wounds many of us carry without realizing it.

With Crawford Clinics’ signature blend of clinical insight and spiritual depth, you’ll learn how your attachment style was formed—and how to gently heal it. Discover the transformative power of calling an “internal board meeting” to realign your inner world, rebuild a secure attachment from the inside out, and finally experience deeper, more connected relationships in every area of life.

You are worthy of safe, soul-nourishing love—and healing starts here.

Unlocking ADHD: Proven Strategies for Families + The Power of Holistic Healing

Sun, 04 May 2025 15:00:00 -0500

If you're a parent feeling overwhelmed by ADHD symptoms — whether in your child or even in yourself — this episode will give you real hope and practical strategies.

In today's conversation, Dr. Shannan Crawford sits down with Dr. Kelly Cagle, a researcher, educator, and ADHD coach who specializes in equipping moms and families with science-backed tools to navigate ADHD with confidence.

Together, they unpack what’s really going on beneath the surface of ADHD symptoms — from brain function to emotional regulation — and explore how an integrative medical approach can make all the difference.

At Crawford Clinics, we offer holistic counseling, coaching, and personalized integrative treatment plans to address the underlying brain and body issues that may be contributing to ADHD symptoms — helping you or your loved one thrive, not just survive.

✨ Learn more about Dr. Kelly Cagle's podcast, courses, and coaching: 👉 https://dot.cards/drkellycagle?s=qrs&e=cXItMzRtdk53RHIxSQ

If you’re ready for support, we invite you to reach out to Crawford Clinics for personalized ADHD counseling, coaching, and integrative brain health care.

🌟 Schedule your consultation today at CrawfordClinics.com or simply text "ADHD" to 817-601-5540

From Coping to Thriving: How Depth Work Leads to Lasting Transformation

Sun, 27 Apr 2025 12:28:41 -0500

When you've tried everything to feel better — but the symptoms keep coming back — it's not a willpower problem. It’s a sign your unconscious mind needs a deeper upgrade.

In a world crowded with self-proclaimed experts, Clinical Psychologist Dr. Shannan Crawford stands apart. As the creator of the Restoring-Self-Cohesion™ approach, she helps you uncover the hidden root causes behind emotional and mental roadblocks — bringing clarity, breakthrough, and lasting change.

If you're ready to upgrade your thoughts, relationships, and life — and step into the confident, world-changer version of yourself you know is in there — you're in the right place.

Learn more about our proven, results-driven process at CrawfordClinics.com — because real transformation starts from the inside out.

Discover your PURPOSE

Sun, 09 Mar 2025 07:03:00 -0600

Life's too short to live without purpose. Join us as Dr. Crawford illuminates the keys to unlocking your internal world - remove internal glass ceilings - so you can connect with your true purpose and live a life of impact! You are here for a purpose! We believe in you! The Restoring-Self-Cohesion approach is here to help you get activated! 

Unlock U Ep 174: Leading With True Confidence with Stephanie Kelsey

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 17:31:27 -0600

Have you ever wondered if your leadership style is too passive, too aggressive, or truly confident? In this episode, Coach Stephanie Kelsey—aka the “Velvet Hammer”—joins me to explore what it means to lead with authentic confidence.

Stephanie shares her experiences leading large teams in corporate and volunteer spaces, showing how to balance strength with approachability while inspiring collaboration. We dive into the downsides of aggressive leadership (stifling innovation, shutting down feedback) and passive leadership (avoiding conflict, weak boundaries). You’ll leave with tools to foster trust, creativity, and connection wherever you lead.

🎉 Plus, I’m so excited to announce our brand-new Crawford Clinics location! Stop by during our Open House at: 📍 Southlake Blvd, Suite 110, Southlake, TX 76092 🗓️ Saturday, February 1, 2025 ⏰ 2:00 PM - 4:00 PM

Come say hi, tour the space, and dream with us about how we can serve you better. Let’s dream big, push through the hard stuff, and live intentionally together!

Unlock U Ep 173: Waiting for Dreams

Mon, 20 Jan 2025 17:18:05 -0600

Guys, I cannot wait to catch up with you! This podcast feels like sitting down together for coffee and just chatting about life, dreams, and all the things happening with Crawford Clinics and my world. Let’s be real—life can feel like it’s full of waiting. Waiting for a relationship, a degree, a promotion, or even that next vacation. I get it because I’m a dreamer too. Like, binder-full-of-dreams kind of dreamer (and yes, it has tabs!).

But here’s the thing: dreaming is the easy part. The waiting? The pruning? The maturing? Oh man, that’s where the growth really happens. In this episode, I’m opening up about how those seasons of waiting can shape you—and how you can adopt a “growth mindset” that says, I can do that. It’s a mindset passed down from my family, starting with my grandpa, who faced so many obstacles but always believed in pushing past limitations.

I’ll also share a fun update about our brand-new Crawford Clinics location in Southlake, Texas! If you’re in the area, come to our Open House on February 1st from 2–4 PM. We’d love to meet you, show you around, and hear your ideas on how we can serve you better. Let’s dream big, push through the hard stuff, and live intentionally together. Love you, friends!

Unlock U Ep 172: Breaking Free from Shame

Mon, 13 Jan 2025 17:08:18 -0600

Hey friends! If you missed the last episode, I recommend checking it out first—it sets the stage for this one.

We’re diving into the sneaky lies shame plants in our lives—like "I’m too much" or "I’ll be rejected if people really see me." These beliefs often show up in perfectionism, people-pleasing, or even burnout. Take Andrew, for example (name changed). He seemed happy and successful, but beneath it all, unresolved shame and unmet needs were creating resentment, anxiety, and disconnection. Sound familiar?

Here’s the good news: you’re not stuck! By rejecting shame and embracing radical self-acceptance, you can realign your inner world and reconnect with your true self. When your spirit leads, creativity, peace, and purpose follow.

Let’s explore how to unearth the parts of us we’ve hidden, invite healing, and live with freedom. Curious? Watch now! 💡

Unlock U Ep 171: Our First Core Belief

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 17:19:02 -0600

Hey friends,

In this Unlock U episode, we’re diving into the foundation of who we are—our very first core belief. Life gets messy, doesn’t it? Between the ups and downs of parenting, work, mindset struggles, and just trying to keep it all together, it can feel like chaos. But when we step back and see the bigger picture—God’s story unfolding in and through us—suddenly, it all starts to make sense.

You’re not just a collection of thoughts, emotions, and to-do lists. You’re a spirit being, uniquely designed in God’s image. When you’re in alignment—body under soul, soul under spirit, and spirit under the Holy Spirit—you can experience peace, clarity, and freedom. But let’s be honest: misalignment? That feels like a pinched nerve messing with everything.

We’ll unpack how even old, sneaky beliefs planted when we were little can hold us back and how to realign with who God says you are. You’re made for awe and wonder, and it’s time to live fully in that truth!

If this speaks to your heart, don’t go it alone. At Crawford Clinics, we’re here to walk with you, helping you heal, grow, and live whole. Visit us at Crawford Clinics—we’d love to support you on your journey! 💛

Unlock U Ep 170: Rewiring Your Inner World

Thu, 02 Jan 2025 09:07:42 -0600

The new year feels like the perfect time to hit reset and finally break free from those frustrating patterns we all struggle with—whether it’s relationships, work, or even how we view ourselves. In Episode 170 of Unlock U, we’re peeling back the layers to understand why these cycles happen and how you can create real change, starting from the inside out.

We’ll talk about how your life experiences shape hidden beliefs and emotions that can keep you stuck, even when you’re trying so hard to move forward. I’ll guide you through practical ways to uncover those patterns, gently connect with the parts of yourself holding onto pain, and step into healing with kindness and curiosity. This isn’t about quick fixes or surface-level solutions—it’s about creating lasting peace within.

Imagine stepping into this year feeling lighter, clearer, and truly aligned with the best version of yourself. Let’s make that happen together. Ready to begin? Head to CrawfordClinics.com to learn more.

Unlock U Ep 169: Letting Go with Love with Tina Dean

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 16:21:23 -0600

This week on Unlock U, we’re diving into a tender yet transformative conversation with Tina Dean, co-founder of Legacy Adoption Agency. Together, we explore the quiet pain so many carry—miscarriage, abortion, adoption, or the unspoken grief of letting go.

Tina beautifully reframes what it means to place a child for adoption—not as “giving up,” but as an act of love and selflessness. For birth moms, it’s a decision often made in the shadows of shame, but one that reflects incredible courage and sacrifice.

If you’ve ever made a choice like this or felt the weight of untold stories, you are seen, you are loved, and you are not alone. This conversation is for you. It’s a safe space to let light and healing in. 💛

✨ Tune in for stories of hope, redemption, and the strength it takes to release with love. At CrawfordClinics.com, we’re here for you, always.

Unlock U Ep 168: Health Harmony with Dr. Remina

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 08:33:36 -0600

In this episode of Unlock U, we're diving into “Health Harmony” with the incredible Dr. Remina Panjwani. If you’ve been feeling out of sync—physically, emotionally, or mentally—this conversation is for you. We explore how stress, trauma, and unresolved emotions impact your health and, more importantly, the steps you can take to heal and thrive.

Dr. Remina shares powerful insights and tools to help you restore balance and reconnect with yourself—mind, body, and soul. You don’t have to settle for survival. It’s time to unlock the health and harmony you were made for.

Ready for more support? Visit CrawfordClinics.com to discover personalized resources and therapy options that can help you on your journey to wholeness.

Unlock U Ep 167: The Somatic Symptom Cycle with Andria Booles

Sun, 01 Dec 2024 17:12:21 -0600

Life has a way of getting our attention, doesn’t it? Whether it’s through something physical, like a food allergy, or something deeper, like an emotional struggle, our body, soul, and spirit are always communicating. It’s amazing how interconnected we are, and that’s where real healing begins—when we stop to listen and approach life holistically.

In this episode, I had the joy of sitting down with my dear friend Andria Booles, whose heart for holistic healing truly shines. We talked about how what happens in one area of life often impacts the others, and how understanding this connection can transform the way we care for ourselves. Andria’s insight and compassion are so inspiring—I know you’ll feel it too.

If something in our conversation sparked a desire to go deeper, I want you to know you’re not alone. At Crawford Clinics, we’re here to help you process, heal, and grow at your own pace. Whether it’s with Andria or another member of our team, we’d be honored to come alongside you. You can visit us at CrawfordClinics.com or text us at 817-601-5540—whatever feels easiest for you.

Unlock U Ep 166: Holding on to Hope with Caroline Harries

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 06:57:07 -0600

Welcome to a heartfelt and deeply encouraging episode of Unlock U. Today, I’m joined by the inspiring Caroline Harries, who shares her personal journey of navigating life’s toughest challenges while holding on to hope. Caroline’s story is a powerful reminder that even in seasons of waiting, uncertainty, or heartbreak, hope isn’t something fleeting—it’s an anchor, a choice, and a way to keep moving forward.

In our conversation, we’ll explore how she found strength and purpose through her faith, the lessons she’s learned about trusting the process, and how we, too, can cultivate resilience and hope in our own lives. If you’ve ever felt the weight of discouragement or wondered how to keep believing for something that hasn’t yet come to pass, this episode is for you.

Grab a cup of coffee or settle in for this uplifting and honest discussion—it just might be the encouragement your heart needs today!

Unlock U Ep 165: Shattering Toxic Patterns Cycles with Andria Booles

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 16:07:32 -0500

Are you tired of feeling like you're always stuck in the same relationship pattern? It can be frustrating when you’ve done the self-work, made those vision boards, and still find yourself attracting the same types of people! In this week’s episode, I’m sitting down with my friend and brilliant colleague, Andria Booles, a therapist at Crawford Clinics. 😉

We’re diving into why we keep attracting the same kind of relationships, despite all our good intentions and mindset shifts. Andria brings her expertise in psychosomatic therapy, which looks at how our mind and body are deeply connected, helping us better understand the energy we give off and how it impacts our relationships.

We explore topics like balancing masculine and feminine energy (and no, this isn’t about gender roles!), how past experiences shape what we bring into relationships, and how to break the cycle of repeating unhealthy patterns. Andria’s got some incredible insights on how creating safety within ourselves is the key to drawing in deeper, more fulfilling connections with others.

Whether you're single, dating, or married, you’ll find something in this episode to help you align with the relationships you really want.

Join us for a fun, deep, and enlightening conversation—can’t wait to hear your thoughts!

Unlock U Ep 164: Maximizing Your Brain Health with Dr. Remina

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 17:15:32 -0500

Hey friends! 😊 Episode 164 of Unlock U just dropped, and I couldn’t be more excited about this one! I had the pleasure of sitting down with the incredible Dr. Remina Panjwani, who brings such a compassionate, down-to-earth approach to holistic wellness.

Dr. Remina really gets to the heart of what it means to feel truly alive, sharing her insights on how the little changes in how we treat our bodies can ripple out into every area of our lives. We talked about more than just “wellness” as a buzzword—this is about tapping into the energy and clarity that come from aligning our physical health with our emotional and mental well-being.

Tune in, get cozy, and let’s keep growing together! 🌸

For more support on your wellness journey, head over to crawfordclinics.com—we’re here to help you thrive!

Unlock U Ep163: Breaking Free from Excuses with Claire Gaither

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 16:15:15 -0500

Ever feel like you're getting in your own way? In this episode, I sit down with Claire Gaither, and we get real about the excuses we all make and how they quietly hold us back. Claire shares her journey and some down-to-earth tips to help you stop letting those excuses run the show.

We dive into how self-awareness and small, practical changes can make a huge impact when it comes to ditching self-doubt and stepping into your full potential. If you're feeling stuck or just want to up-level your mindset, this conversation is packed with wisdom to help you break free from whatever’s holding you back.

So, if you're ready to stop making excuses and start showing up fully for yourself, this one's for you!

For more ways to take your growth to the next level, head over to CrawfordClinics.com.

Unlock U Ep161: Dissecting Situationships with Claire Gaither

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 16:23:03 -0500

Ever found yourself wondering, “What are we?” in a relationship that feels like it’s stuck in limbo? Yep, you're probably in a situationship. In Episode 161 of Unlock U, we sit down with Claire, our Gen Z counselor from CrawfordClinics, to unpack all the confusing feelings, blurred lines, and emotional rollercoasters that come with it. Why do we get stuck in these undefined spaces, and more importantly, how do we get out? Claire shares insights on setting healthy boundaries and recognizing the patterns that keep us hooked on the unavailable. If you’ve ever been ghosted or felt lost in the dating game, this episode is for you. Let's get real and talk about finding the love that’s right for you. 💛

 

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Unlock U Ep 160: A Journey to Wellness with Integrative Health Practitioner Crystal Hoskins

Tue, 06 Aug 2024 16:05:38 -0500

Welcome to the latest episode of Unlock U! I'm Dr. Shannan Crawford, and today we're diving into a topic that's close to my heart. Have you ever felt like something just wasn't right with your body, only to be reassured by doctors that everything is "normal"? It can be so disheartening and confusing, especially when you're dealing with persistent issues like brain fog, chronic fatigue, or unexplained aches and pains.

In this episode, I'm joined by the wonderful Crystal Hoskins, an integrative health practitioner with a fascinating background in quantum biology and blood chemistry. Crystal has walked a similar path to many of us, facing mysterious symptoms and feeling lost in the world of conventional medicine. She shares her personal journey of discovering alternative medicine and finding the missing pieces to her health puzzle.

Our conversation is all about those often-overlooked factors that can make a world of difference in how we feel. Crystal and I talk openly about the frustration of not having clear answers and the hope that comes from exploring new perspectives. We delve into practical insights and holistic approaches that can help you understand and address the root causes of your symptoms.

This episode is not just an interview; it's a heartfelt exchange between two people passionate about finding true wellness. Whether you're struggling with similar issues or are simply curious about alternative paths to health, I believe you'll find comfort and encouragement in Crystal's story. So, grab a cozy drink, sit back, and join us for a warm and enlightening conversation. Let's unlock a deeper understanding of our health together!